Entitled 29-year-old picky-eater demands his girlfriend to exclude every ingredient he doesn't like from her diet leaving her wondering if she should accomodate: 'After I told him they were for me, he kept saying things like, “You know I don’t eat that”'

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jul 6, 2026 4:00 PM EDT

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I don't know about you guys, but I consider picky eating a very serious issue. To me, it's unthinkable to be more than 7 years of age and still unable to eat anything with garlic. Having a broad palate is a very important skill for life and for sharing with people from your own and other cultures, aside from the pleasurable experience in itself of enjoying multiple flavours. Imagine you are a picky eater, and you get invited to eat pasta at your friend's house; the sauce will probably involve garlic. You are suddenly excluded from more than half of reunions because EVERYTHING INVOLVES GARLIC in Western and Eastern cooking. You are allowed not to like something, of course, but I always thought picky eating was about something else, especially if you are like this boyfriend who makes his taste everyone else's problem.

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    The man only eating what he likes

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    Is it possible for me (29F) to accommodate my boyfriend’s (29M) extreme food aversions or are we just incompatible?

    I 29F have been dating my boyfriend 29M for about 6 months. He has extremely restrictive eating habits. He doesn't have food. allergies, but he has strong aversions to certain flavors and textures. His list of
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    foods he won't eat is long, no garlic, no bell peppers, only salt and plenty of other restrictions. Because of this, we never go out to eat at restaurants, and when we cook at home, everything has to be
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    prepared exactly the way he likes or he won't eat it. At the beginning of our relationship, he would bring his own groceries and cook for himself. Very quickly, though, that changed. Now he expects
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    Tonight, I went grocery shopping to make a simple rice and stew. I bought garlic and bell peppers for myself. As soon as he saw them, he got upset and assumed I was putting them in the stew. Even
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    after I told him they were for me, he kept saying things like, "You know I don't eat that," and, "If you put that in the stew, I won't eat." That really irritated me because it highlighted
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  • Correct me if I’m wrong, but picky eaters, just like children, most of the time can’t tell if there are onions or garlic in a sauce if you don’t specifically tell them, especially if they like it. I’m sure the boyfriend in this story eats plenty of packaged food containing garlic, only he doesn’t know it. Again, garlic is IN EVERYTHING, guys. This is why we have to teach young children to open themselves up to new experiences and new flavours. Sharing meals is about connecting, and if you are too rigid or picky about it, it speaks to an underlying bigger rigidity. Again, this isn’t about him not liking something; it’s more about the attitude he displays around it.



     

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    how much I've been accommodating him. I realized I can't even buy ingredients I enjoy without feeling like I have to justify them. I finally told him that I'm done centering every meal around his food
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    aversions. From now on, he can buy and cook his own food, and I'll buy and cook mine. If we happen to make something we both enjoy, great. Otherwise, we'll handle our meals separately.
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    He thinks I'm being selfish and unfair because he says his food aversions aren't something he can control and he shouldn't have to force himself to eat things he doesn't like. I believe him, and I'm not
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    asking him to force himself. But I also shouldn't have to limit my own diet or constantly cook separate versions of every meal to accommodate him. I really like him and would
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    like to make this relationship work, but I'm exhausted. I miss eating the foods I enjoy, and I don't want my grocery shopping and meal planning to revolve around someone else's
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    preferences indefinitely. Has anyone been in a relationship like this? Is completely separating our meals a reasonable compromise, or are we simply incompatible?
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    The stew with loads of garlic

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  • I suppose you can have a relationship with a picky eater; you can separate all your meals, you can hide all your favourite ingredients so they don't see them and get angry about them. Although it would be very uncomfortable, it can be done. You can make a conscious decision to list all the foods you both enjoy and try to include them as much as possible, but still, I think this issue will backfire sooner or later because, again, it’s about his attitude and his entitlement to whatever she cooks; but well, that’s just my opinion.



     

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